Category Archives: psychology

Emotions are expensive.

Binging. Splurging. Compensating. To hell with it. Wanna save money? Put your frontal cortex in charge of your budget, not your amygdala.

Emotions are expensive.

Binging. Splurging. Compensating. To hell with it. Wanna save money? Put your frontal cortex in charge of your budget, not your amygdala.

Our brains are not able to keep up with our minds.

The speed at which our technological and philosophical innovations are transforming our selves and our environments is happening faster than the speed at which our biology can augment and adjust itself to the new environments. In other words, our brains

Our brains are not able to keep up with our minds.

The speed at which our technological and philosophical innovations are transforming our selves and our environments is happening faster than the speed at which our biology can augment and adjust itself to the new environments. In other words, our brains

“The whole trick in life is to get so that your own brain doesn’t mislead you.”

Quote by Charlie Munger. If I could reword it, “The whole trick in life is to not be misled by your own brain.”

“The whole trick in life is to get so that your own brain doesn’t mislead you.”

Quote by Charlie Munger. If I could reword it, “The whole trick in life is to not be misled by your own brain.”

The opposite of fear is not courage, but curiosity.

Curiosity is also the opposite of shame. Fear and shame operate in the limbic system, the more primal engines of our neurology. Curiosity operates in the frontal cortex, the more recent and analytical aspects of our neurology. Fear solicits a

The opposite of fear is not courage, but curiosity.

Curiosity is also the opposite of shame. Fear and shame operate in the limbic system, the more primal engines of our neurology. Curiosity operates in the frontal cortex, the more recent and analytical aspects of our neurology. Fear solicits a

A successful relationship is not due to compatibility, but adaptability.

The underlying belief “compatibility” is that there are innate, unchangeable aspects of our being that are fundamentally unsuited to be in relationship with other innate, unchangeable aspects of another person. This is a myth. It is also believed that “who we

A successful relationship is not due to compatibility, but adaptability.

The underlying belief “compatibility” is that there are innate, unchangeable aspects of our being that are fundamentally unsuited to be in relationship with other innate, unchangeable aspects of another person. This is a myth. It is also believed that “who we

The 36 Questions That Lead to Love

The 36 Questions That Lead to Love Based upon The Experimental Generation of Interpersonal Closeness, A Procedure and Some Preliminary Findings. Set I Given the choice of anyone in the world, whom would you want as a dinner guest? Would you

The 36 Questions That Lead to Love

The 36 Questions That Lead to Love Based upon The Experimental Generation of Interpersonal Closeness, A Procedure and Some Preliminary Findings. Set I Given the choice of anyone in the world, whom would you want as a dinner guest? Would you

Understanding the difference between “problems” and “symptoms” is the most pervasive and pernicious of human challenges, and the pathway toward finding solutions.

You’ve heard many people say, “We have a problem.” But what they are really pointing to is a “symptom.” If you continue to do that, you’ll never understand “the problem,” and you’ll deploy “solutions” that are a waste, and actually

Understanding the difference between “problems” and “symptoms” is the most pervasive and pernicious of human challenges, and the pathway toward finding solutions.

You’ve heard many people say, “We have a problem.” But what they are really pointing to is a “symptom.” If you continue to do that, you’ll never understand “the problem,” and you’ll deploy “solutions” that are a waste, and actually

Stress is experienced when demands exceed resources.

Stress is a condition or feeling experienced when a person perceives that “demands exceed the personal and social resources the individual is able to mobilize.” In less formal terms, we feel stressed when we feel that “things are out of

Stress is experienced when demands exceed resources.

Stress is a condition or feeling experienced when a person perceives that “demands exceed the personal and social resources the individual is able to mobilize.” In less formal terms, we feel stressed when we feel that “things are out of

A mature person is someone who is not easily offended.

offended |əˈfendəd| : “resentful or annoyed, typically as a result of a perceived insult.” mature |məˈCHo͝or| : something has “fully developed” or has “reached an advanced stage of mental or emotional development.” Therefore, someone who is easily offended means that

A mature person is someone who is not easily offended.

offended |əˈfendəd| : “resentful or annoyed, typically as a result of a perceived insult.” mature |məˈCHo͝or| : something has “fully developed” or has “reached an advanced stage of mental or emotional development.” Therefore, someone who is easily offended means that

Love is safer than fear.

Throughout history, humanity has dealt with one big daunting question, What do I do with the “other?” Given that the fear center of our brain (the limbic system) is designed to protect us and keep us safe, and that it

Love is safer than fear.

Throughout history, humanity has dealt with one big daunting question, What do I do with the “other?” Given that the fear center of our brain (the limbic system) is designed to protect us and keep us safe, and that it

Groupthink makes the mind stink.

Irving Janis, author of Victims of Groupthink: A Psychological Study of Foreign-Policy Decisions and Fiascoes, has defined group think as, the deterioration of mental efficiency, reality testing, and moral judgment that results from in-group pressures. (p.9) There are several common

Groupthink makes the mind stink.

Irving Janis, author of Victims of Groupthink: A Psychological Study of Foreign-Policy Decisions and Fiascoes, has defined group think as, the deterioration of mental efficiency, reality testing, and moral judgment that results from in-group pressures. (p.9) There are several common

We only judge in areas where we are deeply vulnerable to shame.

When someone passes judgment on another, it is often done to “rank order” the other person against oneself. It is a measurement we make to position ourselves. And we do so, not necessarily because we think so low of the

We only judge in areas where we are deeply vulnerable to shame.

When someone passes judgment on another, it is often done to “rank order” the other person against oneself. It is a measurement we make to position ourselves. And we do so, not necessarily because we think so low of the

Use the phrase, “I decided…”

There is a choice in every choice. This choice could make a radical difference in life outcomes. That choice is to view your activity as a matter of consequence or as a matter of free will. This is not about

Use the phrase, “I decided…”

There is a choice in every choice. This choice could make a radical difference in life outcomes. That choice is to view your activity as a matter of consequence or as a matter of free will. This is not about

Be ridiculously optimistic. We have a glass.

In the great debate between “half-empty” vs. “half-full,” we seem to have missed the fact that we have a glass. Checkmate, pessimists. #optimistswin

Be ridiculously optimistic. We have a glass.

In the great debate between “half-empty” vs. “half-full,” we seem to have missed the fact that we have a glass. Checkmate, pessimists. #optimistswin

Abstinence is not merely the avoidance of an activity. It is the discipline to not be mastered by the temptation.

Too often the term “abstinence” refers only to the external physical behavior. We must elevate this term and its cognates to something much richer, much deeper, and much more empowering. Mere avoidant passivity is incomplete and uninspiring. True abstinence requires

Abstinence is not merely the avoidance of an activity. It is the discipline to not be mastered by the temptation.

Too often the term “abstinence” refers only to the external physical behavior. We must elevate this term and its cognates to something much richer, much deeper, and much more empowering. Mere avoidant passivity is incomplete and uninspiring. True abstinence requires